Winning the Lottery! Part II

Happy Friday/Saturday Everyone!

So, I thought I’d continue on the topic I started writing on some time ago. It’s something my wife and I are dealing with now. The lottery that I was really trying to allude to was the school lottery for our son! We have entered our son into several charter school lotteries. These schools are some of the best schools that our son could attend.

It is sad to say, but the school that our son is zoned for is not one I would want him to attend. However, I have found this process to very much impacted by socio-economics! I’ll address part of this as I continue. My goal now is to discuss what we have learned in this process. I went to public school in NYC. However, I went to one of those schools that segregrated high achievers from everyone else. Looking back at this experience, I feel that while I was fortunate, this type of segregration impeeds the learning of others, as well as, my learning experiences when I was younger. I think my post is also little more relevant in light of the college admission cheating scandals that are in the news…though honestly I’m quite certain that these types of shinanigans have been going on since the beginning of the idea of college. The “founding fathers” neglected many things in their desire to create a new government. They were of course contending with slave owning states and the property rights of the wealthy landowners who in fact were the framer of the document we know as the constitution. In their massive societal experiment, the framers did not believe that education was important for masses, or that women, Native Americans or African Americans had any rights to vote – because let’s face it their underlying premise was that INFACT we are not all created equal. Complete and utter hypocritical material that got signed by whole bunch of wealthy, landowning, slave holding, white men.  Oh and I’ll provide something to stoke the fire with a little evidence that our first President had issues: Ona Judge. There is “picture” evidence of this in a painting by Junius Brutus Stearns. I should write a post on this. Ok…now I’ll start.

I think I need to begin to briefly discussing what is the difference between public, private and charter schools. I won’t be going to much into private school – honestly because we’re not doing this as it is not financially feaseable for us! This whole topic may be somewhat controversial. However, I am definitely a fan of school choice!

Private school is different from both charter and public schools because of one fact: both public and charter are funded by government money whereas private is funded by other means. I don’t really want to go over the privatization of things that are in the public’s interest. However, if you are interested in this sort of thing I’ll encourage the Harvard Business Review article written on this very subject. President Obama (GOD I MISS HIM) was a fan of charter schools, but not a fan of vouchers! He was such a fan of charter schools that he signed ESSA (Every Student Succeeds Act) into law in 2015. Charters are not much different from public schools except in the following ways:

1. While public schools are ran by the district/school board, charter schools are ran by separate groups that can be either non-profit or profit. They can also receive donations. For both public and charter schools there is no tuition.

2. Public schools have union contracts for teachers, while charter schools hire and fire teachers based on performance. (Not all charter schools are good and it’s important to research as much as possible and determine what the needs of your child are and who your child is.)

3. Finally, students can enroll via ranom lottery.

With that in mind, there are many websites that we had to research into to acquire the most comprehensive picture of the student demographics, vaccination %, teacher to student ratio, and overall rating of the school including comments from current parents. In addition to this we went in person to the open house for the charter schools. We spoke with the administration and the teachers. And this was on a Saturday! We got to meet some of the teachers, and having been in education for such a long time, We were able to glean a lot of information from our interactions with the teachers.  Suffice it to say that I was super impressed with the teacher’s background and general approach to each student.

Are charter schools better than public schools? I’m not sure how to answer this question. However, there is a study from the Center for Research on Education Outcomes at Stanford University that indicates that students from charter schools do a little better in reading but about the same in math when compared to public schools. I think that there is still quite a bit more data out there for us to read and learn. However, this is the jackpot!

We really want our son (and eventually our daughter) to attend one of these charter schools! We’ve seen the environments and can already see the differences in the students and teachers. So, these lotteries are the ones that we are really interested in winning.

I think I have my next post set too based on the beginning of this post! On that note…that’s all folks. Take good care. Have a great weekend and week ahead! Until next time. Same bat time. Same bat channel!

-The Husband.








Winning the Lottery! Part I

Happy Friday/Saturday Everyone!

So, I thought I’d begin with this new topic in mind. It’s something my wife and I are dealing with now.

I think most people dream big when it comes to winning the lottery. As far as I can tell, every single time we see the news that the jackpot has reached 900 million dollars I see news feeds with hoards of people flocking to their local lottery dealer to acquire tickets for their chance to win the jackpot!

At work, even in the sciences, people believe that somehow they will bypass the subatomic possibility that they will win. I fail to understand this crazyness. The probability of winning the lottery is as follows:

Mega Millions Jackpot odds of winning: 1 in 302 million

Powerball Jackpot odds of winning: 1:292 million

Odds of winning both: 1 in 88 quadrillion. Let’s put this into context!

1 million  = 1 followed by six zeros = 1 000 000

1 billion = 1 000 000 000

1 trillion = 1 000 000 000 000

1 light year = 6 000 000 000 000 miles (this is the distance light travels in 1 year at 670 000 000 miles/hour)

1 quadrillion = 1 000 000 000 000 000

I hear the phrase if you don’t play you can’t win. I will bet every time that most people won’t win. If you spend 1 dollar every day that is $365 dollars a year. Think of what you could do with those funds!

If you spend $5 dollars a day this is $1825!

Anyway, I’m digressing. I think most people do it for entertainment and commaraderie. I see and understand that. But, it’s still a total waste of hard earned dollars.

This gets me thinking about the value we place on money. What is money? Do we ever even see it? With the advent of on-line banking and electronic funds transfers, money has become something intangible. We see balances, but we don’t really see cold hard cash. To me, at least, it seems that the purpose is to bombard consumers with products: on-line, on t.v, on the radio, on your phone, on the internet. Ads for products are everywhere. You almost never hear: SAVE YOUR MONEY. YOU MAY NEED IT LATER! Kind of like, “this is your brain. This is your brain on drugs. Any questions”?

It’s difficult to make. But it’s very easy to spend. Bills, food, necessities, and did I say toys and diapers? Wow.

You could invest $1800 dollars. It requires some work, but it is possible to make gains on money like this. There are many types of investments that can be made.

Why I am I talking about this? Well, this will become clear in my next post. But I’ll hint that it involves children!

That’s it for now. Thank you for reading. Let me know your thoughts!

Until next time. Same bat time. Same bat channel! Live long and prosper!

-The Husband

It’s The Most Wonderful Time of the Year!

Hello everyone! So sorry to have disappeared for a little bit. Happy Holidays to all!

I thought that my comeback would be with some complaints, but actually, it’s not that time of the year. However, it is the “most wonderful time of the year!” Really, this is my favorite time. Not because of the possibility of getting things,or because of gift giving. I have learned over my shoft existence that the joy, at least for me, comes one place: the joy of spending time with those you care about and love. Over the last few years, we have been very blessed. While we have had some challenges along the way, at the end of the year, we reflect on what has taken place and where we are. In addition, I have had the privilege of watching my kids grow. And equally important growing more in love with the love of my life – Kat.

This year is particularly filled with a little bit of everthing. We lost some very loved family members and dealt with additional changes. The dust is settling now. Our kids are adjusting to the new environment. Kat and I are finding time to spend with each other and grow. We just recently put up our tree with the decorations. This year, the kids helped. I honestly don’t want the to grow up too fast. But that is happening! My son is ready to go on Star Tours! Though Buzz Lightyear is his favorite ride at Disneyland, I think that may change after Star Tours!

I have so much to say; so many opinions on so many subjects. Including the elephant in the room that is our political system. However, this is not that time.
I want to wish everyone a Happy, Joyous, Healhy and Prosperous Holiday Season in what ever your tradition is. In my tradition, I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

-The Husband

Return of the 80s Dude!

So, August was not a particularly easy month. Our family experienced some tragedies. The eldest member of the family, our Grandmother, passed away. And, as fate would have it, a few days later, our Uncle passed as well. We spent the month basically commuting from home, to work, to the hospital, or from home to the hospital, or from home to various locations to celebrate the lives of those we lost. Honestly, these types of things. All this happening with children can be challenging and equally fulfilling. I have learned that our son has incredible empathy and has begun to understand. Our youngest has also blossomed into her own. As a Dad, I am very proud. My wife, who has endured much during this time, in addition to her usually heavy load, has managed to keep things together. These types of events really put life into perspective. We are but a small spec on a blue marble near a yellow star. We are situated in just the right location that it’s not too hot or too cold. There is so much out there, in the vastness of space-time. And we are here but only a short moment. Life is a gift…and it only lasts for short time in the grand scheme of things. Life is a mystery and full of unknowns. All the world is a stage….ready for the next act? Love is wonderful. Like life, it is full of wonder, joy, and pleasure. And simultaneously it is full death, sadness, and pain. With that, we hopefully leave August – and its trail of death – behind.

With that, what better way to try and reconnect than to reflect on something that always brings joy and happiness: THE 80’S! Pretty much all things now relate to my wife.

Let’s  begin with one of my all-time favorites: “Better Off Dead!” Seriously, I want my two dollars! And Lane is probably one of those characters I related to the most. Cusak does a great job of showing just how awkward it could be to be a teen. But let’s be honest, it’s a classic!

But very little can be said without the next one: “Monty Python and the Holy Grail!” I mean, it’s only a flesh wound! Love the horses. C’mon, if this doesn’t make you laugh, I can’t help you! I shall just say “nee!” But you have to do it properly! But I digress because in order to pass that bridge these three question ye must answer!

This one is a killer – chopper: “Airwolf!” I wanted to like String Fellow Hawk. But that machine is still cool! A silent all-purpose war machine!

And you can’t talk Airwolf without matching it up with “Knight Rider!” I always wondered where that truck was and how it was refueled? And did kit prefer one type of gasoline over another? I mean seriously, a talking car! Need I say more?

And now I just have to…just have to go there: “He-Man!” The most powerful man in the universe! I mean he could move a planet! And he had Skeletor to match!

And what about “Thundercats!” They are on the move! They are on the loose! And Mumbra!!

And you can’t talk 80’s without the one and only: “Michael Jackson!” Billie Jean and Beat it! I mean it! Seriously!

Hmmm. Where do I go from here? I think a peek at my frustrating cartridges and constant blowing into them and placing it just so to get it to work: “NES!” For me, it was all about Mario 1 and Zelda! Hands down Zelda is still my all-time favorite.

And I really liked “Perfect Strangers” because let’s face it, I was strange! Loved this show! I want to go to Mypos!

And who can mention the 80’s without: “Back to the Future!” I’m still waiting for my hoverboard.

And then: “Star Trek: TNG!” I’m immortal again! Riker my good fortune is your good fortune! Seriously we need more leaders like Picard!

Picard meets Kirk! Need I say more!

There is so much more I could do here! But it’s just a return.

Thank you for reading! Until next time. Same bat time same bat channel! Live long and prosper.

-the Husband

Death Waits for No One…

Hello Everyone,

This week our family has been hit by some difficult circumstances. On Monday, the matriarch of the family suffered a debilitating stroke – which has placed her in a coma. And an uncle passed away Tuesday morning. Kat, at the moment, is going through a very difficult experience as both are on her side of the family. There is nothing that I can do except provide support. I am even writing this as a form of catharsis for all of us. This is a time of grief for our family. Grandma (aka great Nana) is the oldest and most beloved person in our family. She continues to breath, but she may never wake up. And she had a very close relationship with both Kat and Kat’s Mom.

During this time of grief, our children, and those of our other family members continue to be children. This makes me think of the juxtaposition of life and death. The room where Grandma was in had both the oldest and the youngest person in the family. We all watched Gradman take breaths in silence – except for the recently born second cousin who cried as he needed to nurse. Last night, as we prepared to take our kids, especially our oldest, to visit his great Nana, we explained that the person he would see would not be the same. We tried to explain that she was in a very deep sleep and that although, perhaps she may be able to hear him, she could not talk back to him. He, of course, asked why? And so begins the explanations of death and what it means to die. Children do not really, under most circumstances, understand the concept of death.  But this may be a blog post for another time.

In honor of Grandma and in support of my wife, I’m placing a poem of one of our most beloved writers. Thank you for visiting. We appreciate your thoughts and support during this time. Thank you. I wish you all happiness, good health, prosperity and long life. Grandma you are loved and remembered…

-The Husband

Because I could not stop for Death (479)

by Emily Dickinson, 1830 – 1886

Because I could not stop for Death –

He kindly stopped for me –

The Carriage held but just Ourselves –

And Immortality.


We slowly drove – He knew no haste

And I had put away

My labor and my leisure too,

For His Civility –


We passed the School, where Children strove

At Recess – in the Ring –

We passed the Fields of Gazing Grain –

We passed the Setting Sun –


Or rather – He passed us –

The Dews drew quivering and chill –

For only Gossamer, my Gown –

My Tippet – only Tulle –


We paused before a House that seemed

A Swelling of the Ground –

The Roof was scarcely visible –

The Cornice – in the Ground –


Since then – ‘tis Centuries – and yet

Feels shorter than the Day

I first surmised the Horses’ Heads

Were toward Eternity –

Nostalgia for the music of the 1980s. If you enjoy 80s music or synth-pop, this post is for you.

80s New Wave and Synth-pop Mix!

Nostalgia for the music of the 1980s. If you enjoy 80s music or synth-pop, this post is for you.

Hi Everyone,

So, it’s Saturday. I thought I’d go nostalgic and just put on some 80s tunes and 80s New Wave tunes. More specifically, English synth-pop/new wave! Sometimes, at home, we just listen to music. We let the kids get exposed to all different types. And we get very dizzy in the process. My son’s idea of dancing, as is my daughter, is to move his hands in the air, point and turn in circles. He does manage to do this at the beat of the music. But, for me, it’s all about the 80s. Not to say that there are not other great pieces of music out there. Which, in fact, there are. To go on a tangent, my daughter loves mozzarella.  She’s just like daddy! Anyway, my wife knows I bleed this stuff. If you are out there, and you are like me, shout it out! Give me a like! I promise I’ll make it worth your while.

Frankly, there are so many things going on in the world. Sometimes it’s just nice to take a step back and reflect the things we have done. Let’s see nothing about: recording tapes, tariffs,  general mayhem, the ups and downs of the markets. You know, if you like you can grab a cup or glass of whatever you like, gather your kids if you can manage, and listen to some of these pieces! Finally, I think, that in another life, I must have been British. Most of the music I enjoy is by British bands. Suffice it to say that I have both British and Irish in me – among other things.  Shout out to Stephen T! All right! Without further adieu…the music! Enjoy!

FYI (Disclaimer) this is not intended to disenfranchise the copyrights of anyone. In fact, I encourage all to buy this music!!

OK. Enjoy!

-The Husband

Gotta start somewhere! I swear Depeche Mode was right there…but really, New Order, this is the beginning!

New Order – Bizarre Love Triangle (Extended Dance Mix)

Depeche Mode – Enjoy The Silence

Information Society – What’s On Your Mind (Pure Energy)

We’re no strangers to love…..Wow! One of my favorites! Such a wonderful piece!
Rick Astley – Never Gonna Give You Up (Video)

The Smiths – How Soon Is Now? (I really wish this type of music would make a comeback!!!) love it!

Tears For Fears – Head Over Heels (Love this one!!!! The richness of this piece is the essence of my wife; love it! Love her! Love it!)

It only makes sense! This has got to follow!
Tears For Fears – Shout

The Cure – Lovesong

Love this one too!
Culture Club – Karma Chameleon

Depeche Mode – Never Let Me Down Again

Bon Jovi – Livin’ On A Prayer

Kim Wilde – You Keep Me Hanging On

Cutting Crew – (I Just) Died In Your Arms (Freaking awesome!)

The Cure Just like heaven (OMG totally…totally great!)

Red Flag – Russian Radio

Eurythmics – Sweet Dreams (Are Made Of This)

This one is particularly lovely! Just love it! Especially at 1min.20s.!
The Smiths-Bigmouth Strike Again

Johnny Hates Jazz – Shattered Dreams

Mr. Mister – Broken Wings

Ok. The next one is awesome too. If you’ve ever liked John Cusack in Better off Dead. Lane is one of my all tie favorite characters. This piece is great!
Howard Jones – Like To Get To Know You Well

Real Life – Send Me An Angel ’89

Modern English – I Melt With You

When In Rome – The Promise

George Michael – Careless Whisper (My love song for us!) he left too soon…

Tears For Fears – “Everybody Wants To Rule The World”

Blondie – Call me

A Flock Of Seagulls – Space Age Love Song 1982

If you love Breakfast Club….”nuf said”
Orchestral Manoeuvres in the Dark (OMD)- If You Leave

These last couple are not only from the 80s, but they are capital A AWESOME!

Michael Jackson – Billie Jean

Michael Jackson – Beat It

Born Slippy – Underworld

The Prodigy – Firestarter (one of my favorites!!! So is the next!!)

The Prodigy – Breathe

Paul Van Dyk – Dallas Superstars – ‘Higher’

Thank you for listening! I hope you enjoyed it!

Want a NY Style Pizza...but you don't live in NY? Try this recipe!

Close to NY Style Pizza!

Want a NY Style Pizza...but you don't live in NY? Try this recipe!

Hello All!

So I made an attempt to make NY style pizza at home. There is a small story to go with this recipe. I attempted this recipe three consecutive times. It is is NO WAY perfected. However, the third time did produce a very good tasting product. I love NY style pizza. I miss it. There are only a few places in LA that offer NY style pizza that is very similar to NY pizza. I think the sauce is very close. Kat has perfected it for general consumption with a variety of pastas, but we are trying to tweak it for the pizza. My first attempt, I actually had a hole in the pizza. The second attempt the pizza sauce had anchovies and the dough did not rise. The third attempt was the best…but only close. However, if you try this recipe you may like it.

Who knows? [The shaddow knows!]

Ok. Back to pizza making.

Below you will find the recipe. Enjoy!

Part 1

1. Get a small bowl and add 2/3 cup of filtered water. Then warm it up in the microwave. It only needs to be slightly warm….NOT HOT!

2. Add a packet of Fleischmann’s pizza crust yeast. Then add a teaspoon of sugar. Mix well. When the yeast are activated you will see bubbles!

3. To a mixing bowl add:

(a) 2 cups of flour (plus a additional 1 and 1/2 cup of flower later!) [Total 3 and 1/2 cups needed]

(b) 1 and 1/2 teaspoon of salt

(c) 1/2 tablespoon of sugar

(d) 1 large egg

(e) 2 tablespoons of olive oil

(f) 1/3 cup of water

(g) then add the pizza crust yeast/sugar/water mixture

4a. If you don’t have  a mixer or kitchen aid, mix the contents in the bowl with your hands and mix well (put some flour on your hands!!) until it begins to form a sticky playdoh consistency mass. Add 1 and 1/2 more cup of flour as you mix to help the dough to take the shape of a ball. Then put some flour on a board or clean surface and transfer the dough to for additonal kneading. Once you have a ball that is somewhat flexible you are done. Place the dough on a plate that was wiped with some olive oil. Cover the dough with paper towels for about 20min at room temperature.

4b. If you have a mixer, or kitchen aid, mix the contents at setting 1 for 2 minutes. Then add the remaining 1 and 1/2 cup of flower and then allow to mix at setting 2 for 8 minutes. Put some flour on your hands and remove the dough from the mixer. Place the dough on a plate that was wiped with some olive oil. Cover the dough with paper towels for about 20min at room temperature.

5. After 20 minutes, remove the paper towel and cover the dough with saran wrap and transfer to a refrigerator for at least 2 hours. At this point you can either continue or allow continue the next day. Your dough will rise!

Part 2

6. Take the dough out of the fridge and allow it come to temperature for 5 minutes. Roll the dough. If you are making a 16 inch pizza, you will need 12 ounces of dough. At this point you can cut the dough with a knife and take what you need. [I will provide another receipe for garlic knots that you can use the remaining dough for!!]

7. Roll the dough with a rolling pin or expand with your hands to make the dough look as you like. Make sure to leave an area for the crust! Be careful not to make too thin as this will result in a hole in your pizza! [I did this the first time!]

Close to NY Style dough

8. Set your oven to 500 degrees! You can also use 550 degrees.

9. You can make your sauce and you don’t have to cook it. Please see this recipe for our sauce. You don’t have to cook it! The sauce should be somewhat sweet. So lay off adding to much salt. You can add sugar to make it the slightest bit sweet but NOT too sweet!!

Part 3

10. Then you can add 1 ladle of sauce. You don’t have to add that much sauce. You can also eyeball it and just cover enough of the surface of the dough.

Dough covered with some loving pizza sauce!

11. Afterwards, you will need to shred some whole milk mozzarella. I use the Galbani shredding mozzarella and I shred it myself. You will also want to use whole milk mozzarella. Then place the cheese to your liking over the sauce.

Addition of some lovely shredding mozzarella!

12. Then add any additional toppings to your liking. We enjoy pepperoni. For that purpose we use Margharite Pepperoni.

Adding some excellent Margherita pepperoni!

13. Place your pizza into an cookie sheet or pizza sheet and place into your oven for 5 to 6 minutes at 500 or 550. Then carefully open the oven and rotate the pizzand and place it directly on the rack (and make sure to have something to collect stuff just below the pizza!). Close the oven and allow to cook for an additional 5 to 6 minutes at 500 or 550.


14. Carefully take out the pizza and place it into the cookie sheet or pizza sheet.

Bake and then.....PIZZA!

Let it cool very briefly. Then get your pizza cutter and go to town! Then take a piece and watch for the “cheese pull!” If you have “cheese pull” I think this will be very satifying!  We hope you will enjoy this recipe!!! It needs some adjustments so an additional post will follow in the near future with any adjustments and modifications!

That’s it. Thank you for reading. Until next time. Same bat time. Same bat channel!

Live long and prosper!

-The Husband





Cooking Bone-In NY Strip



I enjoy having steak! So I thought this week I’d share a nice recipe with you! There is a small story that goes along with this recipe.

Many years ago, I was running at night. While completing my run, with two friends, I noticed Gordon Ramsay was also running that evening. At first I was not sure, so I walked over to introduce myself, and to see if it was him. It was! I shook his hand and said it was a pleasure and sheer luck to meet him. And then I was on my merry way home. This is a true story. My friends were in disbelief, but I was happy to have taken the risk to see if my eyes were correct. Shortly after this experience, I began to learn and experiment how to make steak from Gordon Ramsey’s recipes – specifically how to make steak! It is one of my favorite things to eat – especially if it’s Gordon Ramsay’s filet minon.

OK. Take out your steak and let it sit at RT for 20-30min.


Season your steak with salt and pepper to taste.


Then place your pan onto the stove and add 1tbsp of olive oil and let it get hot! When you see a bit of smoke rise from your pan put in your steak for about 2minutes on each side.


Turn the steaks on the side and cook the sides for about 1min.


Put in your butter and lemon juice (from one lemon) and baste the steaks with a spoon.


Place your steaks into a pan and complete the cooking process in the oven at 400F for 7-8min.


Take out the oven and allow to rest for 3-5min.



Thank you! Until next time. Same bat time. Same bat channel. Live long and prosper! Happy 4th July and happy eating!

-The Husband

My version of Gordon Ramsay’s steak (with white rice)

  • New York Strip (or what ever cut you like)
  • salt
  • pepper
  • one lemon (use all the jice from one lemon)
  • 1 tbsp olive oil
  • salted butter
  • McCormick Grill Mates Montreal Steak Seasoning
  1. Take your your steak and allow to be at room temperature for about 30min. Turn oven on to 400Fat 10 minuntes remaining.
  2. Season your steak with salt, pepper to taste (may then sprinkle a little McCormick Montreal at this time. (Don’t make it too salty!)
  3. Place 1tbsp of olive oil into pan and allow to heat until you see some smoke from the pan. (**Olive oil has a higher temperature for heating and won’t burn don’t use regular oil!!)
  4. Aftet you see the smoke, place your steak into the pan for about 2min.
  5. Turn over and sear for 2minutes.
  6. Add your two small square of butter and lemon juice. Then baste the combination over the steak with a spoon.
  7. Take out your steak and complete the cooking in the oven for 8min.
  8. Remove the steak from the oven and allow to rest for 3-5min.

Can serve with:

  • mashed potatos
  • rice
  • vegetables


On Being a Dad: Balance

What does all this mean to me being a father (and husband)? How have I changed? How have we changed? Let’s discuss Newton’s Third Law of Motion. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. There must be balance. Something cannot come from nothing.

I am still the same but slightly worn. Kat is like a fine wine – she always looks great. But I know she’s tired. I am tired. You are all tired. Everyone is tired. I think you are all tired of reading this too! We have reached a new balance which will also be shifting as our kids (and we) grow older. I love my wife. I love my children. I love my family. I love my profession. I try to think about how to do things better, how to understand cancer better, how to improve T-cells to better target cancer. I also love my family and try to figure out how to be a better husband and father; how to spend time with everyone and to be present. I imagine there are many people out there that do the same.
I am no one in particular and I live in the same blue ball that is floating through space near a yellow star. But the question still remains: what does this all mean to me?
Life is more than just numbers, cells and molecules. All of the things come together to make a completely new whole. Put more simply, take all the following components water, yeast, flour, sugar, salt, tomatoes, basil pepperoni, mozzarella. Separately they are interesting. When combined, they make a very tasty pizza (see post)! What does being a parent mean to me? What is all this worth to me? 42? It means nothing to me and at the same time, it means everything.
Being a parent, like being a husband, is part of living; part of the circle of life. For me, there are many reasons why I made the choice (together with Kat) to be a dad. While challenging, I get to be a part of the process of caring for a little human being that may one day look back at these moments and hopefully have wonderful memories. I get to be a part of a process that I did not have the opportunity to have. I get to be an example while at the same time growing in ways I never thought of. The meaning is inside me! The meaning is inside everyone. It’s personal. My version of parenthood may be different from yours.

I live for those special rare moments that we all share as a family – good and bad. My son is going to school and I get to watch his transformation. Most important – he really loves to play with me. I love spending that time with him. My daughter is walking! Honestly, I just hope that I really get to enjoy them both while they are this small. The meaning is in the value that we place in the things that we do and the actions we take. I place value on disturbance; on time; on commitment; on soul; on balance. These are my ramblings and thank you for being part of it and for reading. To all: live long and prosper. Until next time. Same bat time. Same bat channel.

-The Husband

“Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses, yearning to be free.”

The New Colossus by Emma Lazarus

Not like the brazen giant of Greek fame,
With conquering limbs astride from land to land;
Here at our sea-washed, sunset gates shall stand
A mighty woman with a torch, whose flame
Is the imprisoned lightning, and her name
Mother of Exiles. From her beacon-hand
Glows worldwide welcome; her mild eyes command
The air-bridged harbor that twin cities frame.
“Keep ancient lands, your storied pomp!” cries she
With silent lips. “Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me,
I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”

Where do I begin? We are living in some interesting times. It’s honestly very challenging not to view this through a lens that is clearly obvious to every person outside of the U.S. But instead, I’ll write to provide some sense of justice to those who seek refuge in the US.

Part of the story of “The New Colossus” was that the French had paid for the statue but that New York/US needed to pay for the base. Ms. Lazarus, a poet and daughter of Jewish immigrants, was recruited (along with other prominent writers) to write and raise funds for this purpose. She died prior to the inscription into the Statue of Liberty in 1903. Below is some context to all this hyperbole. I’m beginning to think that a large part of our population wants to live, or believe, in an alternate reality.

  1. Native American’s really were here first.
  2. 900s The Vikings establish trade with Native Americans
  3. 1500’s the Spanish immigrate and settle in Florida
  4. 1600’s French immigrate to US and settle around the Mississippi
  5. 1607 first immigrants from England land and establish a colony in Jamestown, Virginia
  6. 1620 pilgrims arrive at Plymouth Rock, in Massachusetts, to attain religious freedom
  7. 1626 Dutch (part of the East India Company) arrive in “Manhattan” to establish trade/business – the Dutch then buy the  land from Native Americans for an amount that is not exactly clear (nor were the contracts that were developed)
  8. 1600’s people from Africa are brought over as slaves to do forced labor in farms
  9. 1700’s British Quakers and Scottish people immigrate to US
  10. 1800s millions of immigrants from Europe arrive into the US (Jews, Italians, Polish, Greeks,etc.)
  11. US government passes legislation to limit the number of “low skilled” immigrant
    • Immigration Act of 1917 – requiring literacy
    • Emergency Quota Act in 1921 – which restricted immigrants from Russia and Europe (including Jews)
    • Immigration Act of 1924


And then many, many more people from all over the world including Asia arrive. It’s easy to keep on going….but not truly necessary.

Does that mean we are all “infesting” “our” country?

Or is the US a nation of Immigrants?

I think the answer is pretty clear. Are we going through an identity crisis as a nation? Is that what is going on? Perhaps we should return the statue of liberty? Perhaps the inscription should read:

Send me your invigorated, your wealthy, comfortable few, indifferent to suffocating in shackles.

What is our nation becoming?

Thank you for your time. Until next time. Same bat time. Same bat channel.

-The Husband